REDEMPTION UNVEILED BLOG
My Kids Don't Need a Perfect Mom
There I was, driving in my car, completely overwhelmed with mom guilt. I hadn’t handled everything perfectly and I felt bad.
I should have done it better. I should have been better.
I felt I should be a better mom and I began to devise a plan to never fail… ever again.
Because that’s what a good mom does, right?
Of all the things to be a failure at, we don’t want to fail at raising other human beings.
Motherhood is this big giant thing that none of us want to get wrong. There is so much that we handle, dinners, dressing our kids, school parties and activities, watching over their health, social interactions, friendship struggles, all the while trying to be sure we are raising kind, respectful, fun to be around human beings.
It’s kind of a lot of pressure.
And moms carry a lot of the load…
The Place Where Healing Resides
Healing has been a theme of my life for many years now. I have learned so much about the process of healing and the journey it truly takes to experience freedom in our life.
I am now convinced we miss out on so many moments to heal because we don't understand the cost and uncomfortable experience healing entails.
We have embraced the lie that healing looks like reading a good book or making a new habit.
That's not true. Those things are great and they can certainly lead to growth, but healing itself consists of facing our brokenness and finding the courage to own it as our responsibility.
Healing occurs when we start recognizing and owning our imperfections…
It’s Ok to Make Mistakes {But Not Really}
“It’s ok to make mistakes.”
This is something I have heard since I was a kid.
As I have gotten older, I have become increasingly aware of how untrue this statement is.
When is the last time that you made a mistake? A real mistake. How was it handled? Were you given grace for your mistake? Shame? Consequence? Punishment? Retribution?
More often than not, I have seen people pay for the mistakes they have made. We don’t act like it is just “ok” to make a mistake. Small or large we like people to be held accountable for their missteps. What have you experienced in your life? Have you experienced abundant grace for the mistakes you have made?...
Learning to Fail
For the past decade of my life, I have been trying to learn how to fail and after ten plus years, I still don’t know exactly how to do it. Of course, I can fail. Failing is inevitable, but I am still learning how to fail well.
How can I still be here after so many years of believing in grace?
How is it possible that I am still so affected by my failure? Why are my limitations, mistakes, and misunderstandings so scary to me? I have come so far, but I still have a long ways to go.
In the past, when I have failed, I felt the need to cover up my failure and hide my mistakes. At the same time, I would defend my value as if it was something that needed defending.
During my failure, there was always a little voice taunting me... What if my fears are true? What if my fail is a sign that I not only failed, but I am a failure?? But worse, what if I am a failure who is destined to fail forever?
I Am Insecure: Part Three {Rejection Sucks}
Welcome back to our series on insecurity! Part One, we talked about finding “our person” and Part Two, we discussed not avoiding our insecurity. We touched on it in Part One, but this week, we are going to further discuss the fear and risk of rejection when we are honest about our insecurities.
Rejection sucks.I hate it.
This is where all of this “talk” about insecurities becomes very difficult. In a perfect world, I would simply say…