Love Sucks
I made a choice long ago to be a person who loves. Over the years, I have slowly grown my capacity to love much like exercising a muscle to gain strength. Loving big is without a doubt the best thing I have ever done in my life.
But let me let you in on something I have learned…
Love sucks.
Yep, there. I said it.
When I casually hear the word “love” I think about hugs and kisses, rainbows and butterflies, and people singing Kumbaya while holding hands. However, living a life of love is so far from roses and rainbows.
Living a life of love looks more like a warzone than a Hallmark card.
Unfortunately, love is filled with so many things that aren’t warm and fuzzy. Love is filled with misunderstandings and love is filled with disappointments.
Loving big means opening up and creating vulnerability within your life.
The more vulnerable you become, the more likely you are to experience pain.
Love also opens the door to experience one of the most painful things that exist, rejection.
Love hurts.
I am not talking about drama. I am talking about the inevitable experience of pain if you choose to be a person who loves big. No question. No doubt about it.
“Love”
It sounds really simple.
But it’s not.
It’s not easy to love people when they disappoint you. It is not easy to love people when they don’t show up for you. It’s not easy to love people who have hurt you. It is not easy to love people who have betrayed you. It is not easy to love people who have rejected you. It is not easy to love people who disagree with you.
To put it simply, it is not easy to love people.
It is complex and messy and all twisted up like a tangled necklace with a really small chain.
Do I really want to love people? What about the people who haven’t supported me as I expected? Do I love those people? Do I choose to love even the people who aren’t loving me?
Years ago, I settled something in myself. I decided to go down a path of love. I promised myself I wouldn’t ever go back. I was choosing love. The end.
I will choose to love despite the decision made by the person on the other side. I will bless. Period. Even for those who reject me, I will choose to value.
I will not sway from this belief.
I will not falter from this regard.
I have cried many tears over my choice to love, but what better way to spend my tears than experiencing the depth of something that always produces beauty in my life?
Love sucks, but love is worth it every time.
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